Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes an immeasurable courage to show vulnerability like this. We'll never know if unconscious bias played a role here, but statistically you have the odds against you, that is for sure. Your feelings and perspectives of these are 100% valid, and everyone who is questioning the same certainly felt a little less lonely by reading this. I know I did.

Hope you find your way out of these situation. Wish you the best!